Mom Rage is Real - Here's How to Deal with It

Perhaps you’re not an angry mom. You're an overwhelmed mom who needs more support.

By Jessica Anderson

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Motherhood is often portrayed as a realm of unconditional love, joy, and boundless patience.

Yet, amidst the tender and cherished memories, many mothers also experience a complex and often silenced emotion: mom rage.

In my own experience, these emotions shook me to my core, burdened me with guilt, and led me to wonder if I was even cut out for the job of motherhood.

Instead of silencing this reality and retreating back to the never ending demands of parenting, let’s unveil this experience, the underlying causes, and strategies for navigating this often complex and taboo topic.

Where Does Anger in Motherhood Come From? The Pressure Cooker Effect

Is there any greater responsibility than that of parenthood?

Being a mother is a role that carries immense responsibility. To make matters more complex, many women are bombarded by curated Instagram pages and societal expectations of patience and perfection.

These unrealistic expectations can breed feelings of inadequacy and contribute to the internal pressure that fuels feelings of anger, sadness, and even rage.

On top of the responsibility of merely raising good humans, we’re also juggling childcare, household chores, careers, and personal needs. All in combination can create a pressure cooker effect, resulting in stress and frustration building over time.

Even for those aware of these pressures, mothers are often asked to put their own needs on the back burner, instead prioritizing the well-being of their children and family. Add into the mix an absence of adequate support systems, accompanied by zero time for self-care, and one is often left with feelings of overwhelm, often suppressed, but eventually exploding to the surface.

The Ripple Effects

Without support, this built up resentment and anger can strain relationships with partners, children, and even extended family members. Unexpected outbursts create atmospheres of tension, fear, and confusion for all involved. All of this contributing gradually to the overall dynamics and emotional well-being of the family.

Perhaps more challenging is the guilt and self-doubt mothers face in the aftermath. A wave of pain and regret as mothers often question their ability to rise to the challenges of parenting. This guilt only further exacerbates a cycle of sadness and frustration.

Strategies for Overcoming Mom Rage

If you’re anything like me, the intense frustration often accompanied by motherhood can leave you feeling trapped and powerless. Yet, it’s important to remember that we have the ability to transform these feelings of rage and reclaim our inner calm.

We can move beyond the grip of anger and rediscover a sense of peace. Here are some practical and empowering strategies that can help mothers navigate this complex terrain:

Awareness and Self-Reflection

Instead of burdening yourself with guilt, acknowledge and accept mom rage as a valid emotion. Acceptance is the first step toward addressing it. By engaging in self-reflection, we are empowered to identify triggers, patterns, and underlying emotions that contribute to this build-up of big emotions. With this knowledge, we can create healthy boundaries and know how to ask for help when we need it.

Building Support Networks

It’s vital for mothers to seek out supportive communities, either online or in-person, where they can share their experiences, vent frustrations, and receive non-judgemental support from others who understand the challenges they’re facing. Hearing from others is often a great way to find solidarity and seek validation.

Schedule in Self-Care

Easier said than done, right? Regardless, make self-care your top priority. Carve out time weekly for activities that recharge and rejuvenate you, whether that’s engaging in hobbies you enjoy, seeking professional help from a mental health provider, or simply knowing how and when to take a break.

Open Communication

Creating a safe space to communicate your experiences with your partner and loved ones is essential for your own peace. Communicating with your spouse about specific situations and triggers can open the door to an equitable divide of the mental load and more support for when you need it most.

Coping Strategies

Everyone copes differently. Be sure to explore a multitude of strategies to see what works best for you. While this could include deep breathing, meditation, journaling, or therapy, it may also include ten minutes of silence after work, listening to a favorite podcast, or a quick run through Starbucks. Coffee solves everything, right?

Seek Professional Help

With all of this being said, if mom rage starts to significantly impact your well-being and relationships, it may be beneficial to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor who specializes in maternal mental health. Your happiness is the best investment.

Charting a Path Towards Resilience in Motherhood

Mom rage doesn’t have to be taboo. Breaking the silence surrounding this complex emotion is essential for the well-being of mothers and families everywhere.

By embracing self-care, open communication, and self-reflection, we can break free from the grips of anger and frustration to foster stronger connections with ourselves and our loved ones. Together, we can embark on this journey together, supporting one another in creating a world where mothers can thrive and find solace in knowing that they are not alone.

With healing and connection, we can rewrite our stories, transforming guilt into resilience and embracing a joyous and fulfilling journey of motherhood.

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